Memorial Day

Memorial Day has come and past this year, however I feel somewhat out of sorts into how I am not able to really celebrate it anymore or have reverance for it. As a Nation this day is set forth to remember the fallen men & women who have died for this Country we live in.


Memorial Day is not what it use to be. My Mother would take all of us children up to the Cemetary about our home in Provo ( East Lawn Memorial )this cemetary is a bit magical with it sitting on a hill looking the valley below. I have always loved this place for the peace and serenity I always felt there, I always seem to feel closer to the Lord when I am in a Cemetery.


Our trips on Memorial Day started back when our neighbor Brother Backus died, which was many years ago. I can't even tell you what this man looked like, who he was. All I know that it was important for my Mom to visit his grave yearly and put a small token of flowers on the grave out of respect,love and kindness. Now many others who have passed through the veil fall onto my Mother's list.




To name a few:
My Sister Aimee
Grandpa Jack
Tommy Davis ( our neighbor who we grew up with, my childhood friend)
Brother Backus & his Wife (our neighbor across the street)
Brother Murray (our next door neighbor who did so much for our family)
The unknown baby buried in Provo Cemetery (a baby found, no one knows who she is)



These are the ones she always puts flowers on and a few more. However she visits many more while she is out. I have always had the privilage to go with her when we were still living in Utah.
We would walk the cemeterys and talk...
talk about our lives
talk about the people whos lives are now gone
talk of the love that was there
talk of the past lives of those we knew
talk & wonder what happened ....never to know in this life of course.


I miss those times with my Mother, just her and me.




I too have had loved ones pass
My dear sister Aimee
My grandparents ( on both sides)
My childhood friends that were near and dear to me
Friends children who have passed way
Friends who have passed by such sad circumstances
Friends who have passed due to accidents


Some of them would be:

Tommy Davis


Now this is a boy I grew up with, from the time we were little till we got old enough to move out of our house's. We use to play hopscotch, jump on the neighbor's trampoline, ride bikes, swing, play in his parents clubhouse when we were little. Now when we got older we drifted apart a little bit, but during High School we would talk, just talk and talk....about nothing really or everything. Life got busy and we went our separate ways.


I got married and he went on a mission. Years passed by and I would see him on and off again while at my parents home, then one day I ran into where he was working at in American Fork. He was working a graveyard shift at a gas station, we talked for about 2 hours before I realized it was almost 3 in the morning. This boy was great and I had always loved him (his birthday was in June just like mine and we would joke about him being the same age as me for only 2 weeks a year...ha.)


I had gotten the impression while driving to work one day that I needed to stop in and see him, time was running by fast and said I will tomorrow....well tomorrow was a bit late this young man who was such an amazing friend took his own life, which has lead to such amazing sorrow for his family.


I drove to his parents house the day after it happened (very late in the evening) and just sat there in my car crying, not just crying but sobbing as to why I didn't listen to the promptings I should of listened to. I couldn't even begin to comprehend what his family was going through or how they would even cope with such a loss. He is forever in my heart.....I am thankful my Mother remembers him for me too.


Aimee Tate (Bons)

My dear sister was taken way too early, but obviously the Lord thought she had learned everything she needed to in this earthly vessel that he took her at the age of 24 leaving 3 small children, one of which was going to face some of his biggest challenges as he too suffered from the horrible car accident that took her life.


I really hate not being able to visit her resting place.


A place of Solace for me
A place of Love & Understanding
A place of HOPE
A place of Beauty


When Aimee died I was very angry with the Lord for taking her. Taking a Mother who just had her 3rd child, but not only for that reason but also because he took such a righteous person. That's the thing though she was righteous in everything about her, so why wouldn't the Lord want her home to carry on the work he has in store for her...even if the lives of those down on earth were effected it's alright he KNEW we would HEAL the BEST WE COULD!


With being so far away I am not able to participate in such fond memories of showing respect to those who have passed. May God be with them and I thank my Mother for giving me such compassion when it comes to the dead.